Followers.
Comments.
Reply emails.
Its all a part of this crazy blogshere we belong to and our desires to be liked and accepted.
I love it when my fellow bloggers are honest about their need for comments {I'm one of them and I'm not afraid to say I want to hear from you} because after all comments validate what we have said whether people agree or disagree. We put time and thought into our posts and it's nice to receive a response! Am I right?
As a blogger I make new friends all of the time. Some even become true friends. Friends that I would jump on a plane for if they needed my help. Friends that I enjoy talking to via email, text, twitter, face book, hey tell and in person over an ice cold Patron margarita.
But with this, dare I say, odd friendship making technique comes the chance of making a friend I would really rather not have. The friend that makes me feel a little uncomfortable although I just can't put my finger on a reason why. You the know the friend I'm talking about don't you?
Go back to high school for just a minute, think about the weird boy that lived next door that wanted to say hi to you in the hallway when you were with your girlfriends so you avoided eye contact as to not give him the opportunity {please tell me I wasn't the only bitch walking the high school hallways!}. This is the same guy that has looked you up after 20+ years and friend requested you on FB and because you've grown up and you're not the shame cold and shallow girl you were in 1988 you accepted his request. Now he posts continuous off color comments and has embarrassed you into hiding him on your home page. He had ultimately forced you to revert back to the person you were when you were the same age as your daughter!
Can anyone else hear Julia Roberts say that clicking on that accept button was a "Big Mistake, Big, Huge!"?
This same guy can creep, literally, into every area of your life, even your blog if given the chance.
So what do you do when you find yourself with a new "friend" that you really wish you didn't have? This is what I'm doing. I'm watching him/her like a hawk because you know what they say, keep your friends close and your enemy closer. It's also kind of like a car accident, I just can't help but to look. Not being friends with this person leaves me wondering what is going to be said and the thought of being left out of a good laugh is just more that I can handle!
Now I want your opinion...
What do you do when you find yourself in an uncomfortable position with someone wanting to be your friend on FB or worse, wanting to be a part of your own little corner of the blogsphere?
I'm anxious to hear and possibly learn a thing or two from y'all!
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13 comments:
That is a philosophy I live by...keep my friends close and my enemies closer!
I am too nosey to not friend people. I just keep a safe distance if I think they might be creepers or drug dealers...or like they might end up on the 6 o'clock news for any reason.
I also go with the whole "keep your friends close and enemies closer" philosophy. I normally hide the person on FB and will occasionally check and see if I'm missing out on any good updates, that sounds horrible I know! I don't put my blog info on my FB so not too many of friends even know it exists, so I haven't had to deal with anyone I would rather not see my blog, see my blog. So, yea I would leave them for now and if you see any crazy/scary behavior immediately delete and block!
Delete and block. No one is going to invade my blogging world to make me uncomfortable. I am right there with ya girl. Watch em and if need be delete without a second thought.
I'm From a super tiny town so I was friends with everyone. I think is feel bad if I made then feel bad. So I guess I'd say... Just smile & nod, smile & nod :)
I think I am in the same boat and at this time am taking a "wait and see" attitude towards the whole thing. If there's a snake in the yard, I want to have an idea of where it went....
I can't say that I have ever had tht issue, but in this day and age you can't be too careful!
I've denied friend requests on FB repeatedly from some people. They can't see that you denied them so I figure it could be justified by another reason.
Thankfully I don't have anyone weird stalking and commenting on my blog from my real life. If there are weirdos reading from my real life, at least I don't know about it. Just friends.
I don't have any advice on what you're going through, but I have "hid" a lot of people on FB, even certain family members that I don't want to ruffle feathers. Then I kind of just forget about all those people I hid.
there is a new possible creeper in my bloggy neighborhood that i am not sure how to feel about.
i know they found me through bloggy friends i am just not sure how i feel about them yet.
if that makes me a judgmental bizznitch then i am one.
maybe we have the same "friend".
do we?
oh and when it comes to people on FB i friend and unfriend all the time.
it is fun.
and
empowering.
oh and as for the HS thing. there are times that no matter how hard i squint or tilt my head looking at a picture i have NO idea who someone requesting "friend" status is, even though we are from the same graduating class.
i was most def in a world of my own.
I think I know about this "situation" and it totally freaks me out. Stalkers who look like child molesters live among us in the bloggy world AND on facebook. At least on fb I have control over who sees my shiz. In the blog world, you have NO control unless you go private and where's the fun in that?
I love V's comment about the snake...LOL!
Oh. Well. I'm with you. Cuz I totally get it. TOTALLY know where you're coming from and what you mean. TOTALLY.
I don't tell many people IRL about my blog and I've forbidden my husband to tell people, too. My FB is invaded and I just have to try and be mindful of that. I guess it holds me accountable or something. I've friended people and then gone and unfriended them, after a few days. They've never said anything. LOL
I know what you mean! I definitely have a few of those people on Facebook that I really wish I hadn't have accepted. Even if they never comment or anything, they tell way too much about themselves, and they make me wildly uncomfortable. But, I'm a people pleaser, so I have a hard time thinking about unfriending them.
I guess I'm no help at all.
Sorry.
Let me know if you have an epiphany!
I hope I'm the first type of friend and not the second!
I think life is just too short to worry about pleasing or offending people. On Facebook, I don't accept you if we aren't close friends. I have so many people from high school request me and I deny them because I don't remember them. Why bother accepting just to never comment on anything they say or post? I just don't see the point. If they think I'm rude, so be it. They aren't in my life so I don't really care.
For blogs... ahh. This is a hard one. There are a few who comment on my blog, and when I go back to their blog I'm completely flabbergasted by what to say. I mean, I have nothing in common with them & their posts aren't even something I could find something to say about. So while I feel uncomfortable saying "Hey! Happy Monday!" I do it anyway because I feel guilty they took the time to come to my blog and I couldn't be bothered to come by theirs.
Install statcounter.com on your blog - it allows you to block specific IP addresses.
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